As a child, you learn that simple mistakes and slip-ups play a huge part in getting things right. Growing up, you learn to walk after falling numerous times and teach yourself to ride a bike after a few painful “close encounters” with the pavement- a few bumps and bruises included.
The same lesson can be drawn as you begin your professional career. You learn new things and develop a whole new set of skills by failing and then failing again before you finally get it right. And if failing is difficult as a child, you will learn that as an adult, the mistakes you commit at work will give you more than just a few bumps and bruises. Failure can take a huge hit on your moral.
As mistakes are an inescapable part of life, what you do with it makes all the difference between finding success and living in perpetual resentment. The question is: How do you bounce back from failure? Stick by these mantras and they’ll pull you through.
“I know where I go wrong”
The first step in recovering from failure or rejection is to identify the precise reasons why you failed. Whether you are a part of a team or a lone worker, taking a closer look at the areas where you fell short will help. At the same time, owe up to your mistakes. Don’t put the blame on others nor should you take the blame for others. Take responsibility for whatever it is that you did as it is the only way to move the possibilities of learning towards your favour.
“It’s okay to make mistakes”
You’ve pulled all the stops and left no stones unturned but somewhere along the way things till went wrong. You may have done everything you could and exerted every possible effort to accomplish something, but in case you need reminding - mistakes are always bound to happen. Even to the most obsessively organized person. Anyone who wants to succeed must first learn to accept failure.
“My failure is not my identity”
You don’t want to be branded as the person who failed to impress the boss or the employee who did not succeed in closing an important company deal. However, you can’t stop other people from judging you based on your mistakes. You don’t need their approval. Paying too much attention to their opinions can really take a huge blow on your confidence and passion for work. Remember that you are what you are and you are definitely not the mistakes you make.
“I can always ask for help”
While you don’t need the approval of others, you will need a strong support system to help you along the way. Having people you can lean on at work can increase your resilience to stress. Consider your support system as part of your resources which are helpful in your success but even more valuable in times of crises.
“I have learned my lesson”
Practice positive reframing. Positive reframing is optimistic thinking which allows you to take every failure, mistake or rejection not as a setback but as a learning opportunity. Acting as a critical enabler, failure will always give you the opportunity to learn something really valuable.
“I know that I can fix this”
Every failure should be a commitment to make things even better. The lessons you’ve learned from dealing with mistakes in the past should act as leverage towards achieving greatness in the future, so create a leeway for upcoming actions. For instance, it might be too late to save a botched partnership deal, you can definitely improve the way you handle things the next time around. In spite of every rejection or defeat you experienced are a slew of options from which you can create new plans and set new objectives.
How you deal with mistakes and failure is what will ultimately help you succeed. Make peace with failure today so that tomorrow you can bounce back.
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