Confidence is the “secret sauce” of success that many of us wish we had and often envy those whom we perceive to have it in spades. Some of us come into the world with a greater share of natural confidence than others.
However, we are all born with natural confidence; we just lose it along the way in our lives because of the various messages we picked up as we navigate childhood and because of the obstacles we faced and failed to overcome.
So, when you are worried about a job interview or making an important presentation to your colleagues and bosses, here are a few suggestions that may help to boost your confidence.
Remember, everyone has their moment of doubt
Regardless of how other may act or how you may perceive them, everyone has their moments of doubts. No one is confident of their abilities all of the time. Everyone suffers from self-doubt and worry some of the time. They are just better at “faking” it than you are.
Dress the part to demonstrate self-confidence
If you want to appear confident, then be mindful of just how you appear. If you dress down for work, you will perhaps fit if it is a casual atmosphere – you just won’t be ranked high on the “confidence meter”. A good rule of thumb to consider is to always dress for the job you want instead of the job you have. Appearance matter. People are seizing you up all of the time, and if you dress for success, you will more likely display confidence whether you feel it or not.
Surround yourself with positive people and positive messages
What if we were all meant to do what we secretly dream?
What would you ask if you knew if you could have anything?
Sometimes, the only thing holding us back is our own self-doubt. Wouldn’t it be freeing if you knew the only thing keeping you from feeling confident as you would like is, well… you?
Stop comparing yourself to others
You are uniquely you. We too often question ourselves because we sense we don’t fit some sort of frame that everyone else seems to fit even though that is a false perception. We listen to what others tell us instead of listening to our inner wisdom. Stop looking outside yourself for validation. This is your life, and you are only making yourself more miserable when you doubt yourself just because you are not like someone else.
They work. My personal favourite is “So, my dream isn’t to become the best. It’s to be someone who I’m not ashamed to be.” Print them out and post them around your house and office until thinking more positively becomes more of a habit. Download articles and read books with positive messages that will lift you up. The resources are there, you just have to avail yourself of them.
There are many other ways to boost your confidence. These are just a few suggestions. The best advice is to be just easier on yourself. In spite of outer appearance to the contrary, life is not a competition. You have one life to live. How liberating it is to realize that you get to make the rules for how you live your own life.
Live with integrity. Be true to yourself. Be kind to others. Share. Those are the true marks of a life well lived. Live with those, and you will not only feel more confident, you will live your life more freely, authentically, and happily.
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