You might be surprised by how much of an impact a single smile can have on how others perceive you. People will see you as friendly, happy, and an all-around positive person. Not smiling, on the other hand, may have others walking a wide berth around you.
When you don’t feel like smiling
There may be days when you don’t feel like smiling, but those are often the very days you need to the most. Showing grumpiness will only enhance the feelings that run deep. If you look in the mirror and smile at yourself, you’ll probably feel at least a little bit better.
On days when you smile at people while you’re out and about, you may feel that you come home happier that when you left. Your joy will radiate towards others, lift their spirits, and then come back to you. You might be blissfully unaware, but your smile is a reason for someone to smile. You look the best when you wear your smile as there is no beauty like the one that comes from inside you.
Here are some tips on the etiquette of smiling:
Allow your whole face to smile
You will look more genuinely happy when your cheeks move upward, the corner of your eyes crinkle, and your eyes become narrower and sometimes actually appear closed.
First impressions are extremely important
Most people remember the first time they met someone, so it’s a good idea for them to look back and have the image of your smiling face committed to memory.
Make eye contact
When you smile after looking someone in the eye, that person feels as though your happiness is directly related to him/her. It’s as good as giving a genuine compliment and will give her positive feelings toward you.
Smile when meeting or greeting someone
It’s nice to know the proper way to shake hands, but it’s even better if you smile at the person while you’re doing it. He/she is more likely to remember your name, and if you are in a business setting, they’ll listen to you more attentively.
Show joy in gestures and movements
Since people intuitively read body language, a smile is one of many types of body language that they will respond to. When you face someone without any of your limbs crossed and have a smile on your face, you’ll appear more open, confident, and trustworthy.
Identify people with a smile
Not only will smiling while saying a person’s name give both of you a good feeling, you are more likely to remember their name and have a positive association.
Leave with a smile
When it’s time to part ways, smile as you say your goodbyes. This will leave the other person with a positive feeling and make them look forward to seeing you again.
Smile during a job interview
Most employers want happy employees so flash your friendliest and most joyful smile to plant that initial seed during your first job interview. You don’t want them to look back over their stack of applications, only to have yours placed in the “rejected” pile because you appear miserable during the interview.
Respectfully disagree with a smile
When you don’ see eye-to-eye with someone, you can debate in a friendly manner as long as you smile rather than scowl. Adding a smile might even win the other person over to your side.
Smile when talking on the phone
This sounds silly but when you smile while chatting on the phone, the other person will sense a more positive demeanour.
Don’t tell someone else to smile
If you see someone frowning, telling them to smile probably won’t get the result you want. It might even have the opposite effect and make them madder. If there is a good reason for his/her frown, don’t try to cheer them up. Be sympathetic and lending a listening ear.
Know when not to smile
There are times when a smile is inappropriate, for instance when someone close to your friend has passed away or when someone’s house has burned down. Those situations call for a sympathetic demeanour as you try to comfort the other person with words of sympathy.
Remember ladies: “A smile is the best makeup any girl can wear.” – Marilyn Monroe. Gentlemen, please take note of this – Your outfit is never completed without a smile.
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